2001:December:31
2001
Oh yes Adina. I too suffered from the guy and girl friend dilemna. My solution? Society teaches you that it's wrong to "cheat" on your mate by actually enjoying the company of another guy. I find it INCREDIBLY insecure for a guy to think that the way I act around my gal pals is ok because they are girls (as in it's ok to cuss, have as much fun as you want, laugh, tell secrets, and be intimate with girls because they are girls and you theoretically won't sleep with them). I've found that the best way to combat this problem is to just be yourself. The rest falls into place. For instance, last night, I went to pub trivia with Kent (a former boyfriend) and Greg. We had a great time and there is nothing that I would have done differently if I had had the "safety" of Kent and Greg being without penis. If I wanted to cheat on Mark, I could. Whether or not I have fun with guy friends or not is irrelevant to that matter, yet it seems the reason that we can't be friends with guys. I like who I like and act however I want to because I know that Mark knows what a bizarrely amazing truthful thing we have.
I said it better in one of my earlier postings, but the solution for me worked out about six months ago. I was really "attracted" to this guy and thought he was funny and everything, and I actually thought "what a shame that I didn't meet this guy before Mark. He would have made an interesting potential boyfriend, but now we can only be friends". This thought triggered a "what the f!!!!!" reaction in me. I thought how great it would be if a man and a woman could love each other and admire each other to fhe fullest degree - without any guilt that they might be being "untrue" to their respective beloveds. We are taught that if you really love something, you'll want to fuck it. That making love is the ulitmate expression of love. I cry foul. I'm not going to screw anyone's husband just becuase I really really love them. I'm just going to really love them and think they are a great person that I enjoy being around. and this joy is going to in turn make me happier which is in turn going to make mark happier. Is that so awful? God no!
So girls, let's stop seperating from the boys all the time when we want to have a good, let it all hang out night. Love is blind. If it helps, picture them all in their vaginas.
Funnily enough, my own parents are going through this dilmena right now.
This is just my opinion, and I hope I don't sound like some "i've got all the answers" bitch. I've have yet to be tested with Mark getting along really well with a girl (just mainly because girls are generally sooooo brainwashed). I could go raving jealous. I just don't know.
So now that I've solved the age old "can men and women be friends" question, what else have you?
(Obviously said tongue in cheek).
